My journey's been quite a long one, and I've investigated different modalities, and even some energy healingthe past. I wanted to find all of the aspects of psychic training meditation. What brought me here was a disconnectmind, body, soul and spirit. I want to expand my knowledge and
get into the reiki healing and energy healing. It's been, it's been magical. It feels like it's just been a real adventure. Every time I feel great. You'll feel like a comfortable, and amazing, and things changed every time.
So like every week is different. It's really harmonious, you know, It's a really lovely, boutique atmosphere. It's the most intense meditation course I've ever done. Finally, I'm at the place I supposed to be, and I have that strong, strong feeling, I can be myself, and no one's limiting me. No one is telling me what to do and how to do it.
And it's great. I love it. So the process of finding my truth really has been around that, the meditation, and, time for selfreflection, as well, and also working with the people that are coming on this journey with me. One of the big things that I've noticed are
how wellsuited my group was, how we contributed to each other's journey, so really it was quite a holistic sort of developmentthat way. Feeling like I've got people around me who are similar, and because I've been quite lonely before, I've felt like I'm different and crazy.
Now it feels better. I think the main thing that it's helped me with emotionally is actually dealing with the emotion as it happens, as opposed to having an emotional reaction to something can sitting on it, or allowing that to be stored physicallymy body,
Rethinking infidelity a talk for anyone who has ever loved Esther Perel
Why do we cheaté And why do happy people cheaté And when we say quot;infidelity,quot;what exactly do we meané Is it a hookup, a love story,paid sex, a chat room, a massage with a happy endingé Why do we think that men cheatout of boredom and fear of intimacy, but women cheat out of lonelinessand hunger for intimacyé And is an affair alwaysthe end of a relationshipé
For the past 10 years,I have traveled the globe and worked extensivelywith huneds of couples who have been shattered by infidelity. There is one simple act of transgression that can rob a coupleof their relationship, their happiness and theirvery identity: an affair. And yet, this extremely commonact is so poorly understood. So this talk is for anyonewho has ever loved.
Adultery has existedsince marriage was invented, and so, too, the taboo against it. In fact, infidelity has a tenacitythat marriage can only envy, so much so, that this isthe only commandment that is repeated twicethe Bible: once for doing it, and oncejust for thinking about it. (Laughter) So how do we reconcilewhat is universally forbidden,
yet universally practicedé Now, throughout history, menpractically had a license to cheat with little consequence, and supported by a hostof biological and evolutionary theories that justified their need to roam, so the double standardis as old as adultery itself. But who knows what's really going onunder the sheets there, righté Because when it comes to sex,
the pressure for menis to boast and to exaggerate, but the pressure for womenis to hide, minimize and deny, which isn't surprising when you considerthat there are still nine countries where women can be killed for straying. Now, monogamy used to beone person for life. Today, monogamy is one person at a time. (Laughter) (Applause)
I mean, many of you probably have said, quot;I am monogamousall my relationships.quot; (Laughter) We used to marry, and had sex for the first time. But now we marry, and we stop having sex with others. The fact is that monogamyhad nothing to do with love.
What really matters at the end of life BJ Miller
Well, we all need a reason to wake up. For me, it just took 11,000 volts. I know you're too polite to ask, so I will tell you. One night, sophomore year of college, just back from Thanksgiving holiday, a few of my friends and Iwere horsing around, and we decided to climb atopa parked commuter train.
It was just sitting there,with the wires that run overhead. Somehow, that seemedlike a great idea at the time. We'd certainly done stupider things. I scurried up the ladder on the back, and when I stood up, the electrical current entered my arm, blew down and out my feet,and that was that. Would you believe that watch still worksé
Takes a licking! (Laughter) My father wears it nowsolidarity. That night began my formal relationshipwith death my death and it also beganmy long run as a patient. It's a good word. It means one who suffers. So I guess we're all patients.
Now, the American health care system has more than its fair shareof dysfunction to match its brilliance, to be sure. I'm a physician now,a hospice and palliative medicine doc, so I've seen care from both sides. And believe me: almost everyonewho goes into healthcare really means well I mean, truly. But we who workitare also unwitting agents
for a system that too oftendoes not serve. Whyé Well, there's actually a pretty easyanswer to that question, and it explains a lot: because healthcare was designedwith diseases, not people, at its center. Which is to say, of course,it was badly designed. And nowhere are the effectsof bad design more heartbreaking or the opportunityfor good design more compelling
than at the end of life, where things are so distilledand concentrated. There are no doovers. My purpose today isto reach out across disciplines and invite design thinkinginto this big conversation. That is, to bring intention and creativity to the experience of dying. We have a monumentalopportunityfront of us,